Falling Out of Love

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How to Feel More Confident About Your Looks

Your Secret Weapon of Attraction

The Better Angels of Our Nature

Major Decisions

Understanding the Nature of Male Attraction

Dating In Samara

“You are so beautiful and you’re filling up my day with the things I can’t explain” Alex Lloyd

Wow. Potential Bachelor E, a set up thanks to The Bro’s Girl, was converted to a Bachelor. And wow, what a bachelor he is.

He called me one Friday afternoon, and asked if I was free to go to dinner that very night. And I was. He said he would pick me up at 7pm,  I didn’t argue, we were set. I had already undertaken a bit of Facebook stalking to check him out, and one of my Interns at work had extensively googled him, which was quite a fruitful exercise as he used to perform with a singing group, and now plays AFL football in the state leagues.

When he picked me up I had a panic attack. I wasn’t sure he was taller than me. Which didn’t really bother me that much at all, surprisingly, except I knew that when The Bro’s Girl had been texting him to arrange our date he had specifically said “I hope she’s not taller than me, that would be weird.”

But I put my insecurities aside and decided that I really wanted to get to know him, as he would be an amazing friend if nothing else.

And it was an amazing date.

He was so cute. He had booked a table at three restaurants in case I didn’t like the first or second options. So whilst we drove into the Valley, he had to call two other restaurants and cancel his back up bookings.

We talked and talked and talked. We went for Indian food, at his favourite restaurant, and discovered so many things in common. We talked about music festival experiences, music, theatre, movies, work, life, friends, footy, everything.

After dinner we went across the road to a bar and had a couple of beers, and the conversation just kept going and going. Somehow it came out that he can walk up stairs on his hands, and balance an umbrella on his nose, and I can make balloon animals.

To be honest, when we finally decided it was time to call it a night, it was like coming up for air. I had been engrossed in this amazing conversation with this amazing person and it had felt like we were the only two people in the room. Magic could have walked straight past me and I wouldn’t have noticed. At all.

But on the drive home my insecurities got the better of me. Every comment he made seemed to be very ‘matey’. I decided he was trying to give me the hint that he wasn’t interested in being any more than friends. And to be honest I know for a fact that I weigh more than he does, which made me feel uncomfortable. 

So when he dropped me home, cheek kissed me and said ’It was really nice to finally meet you”, I had decided that he wasn’t “big and blokey” enough for me.

I also decided that I wanted SOMEONE that I knew to date him. So I sent him (to my own and Magic’s and everyone’s horror) the following text:

Hey Bachelor Number 33, thanks again for dinner, it was lovely to meet you. If you recover in time on Sunday you should come to lawn bowls. I can make you a balloon animal  and introduce you to Magic. I think The Bro’s Girl set you up with the wrong flatmate 

He didn’t respond for three days.

Loser. I’m a loser.